I am indeed in an age where the future is very important and in need of precise and severe planning. Without plans and effort, almost anyone can foretold the future as somewhat disastrous. It has been told by many that a future for the sake of money isn't worth the plan at all -- in fact, to even contemplate on the idea of just how to gain money for a future is indeed ridiculous... At least, that's what many has advised me (and I am quite thankful for that advice!).
I had always dreamt of becoming a writer. It was also a dream of mine to become a psychiatrist, but due to circumstantial reasons, that dream is only just a dream now. I'm not giving up just yet, though. As of now, the only dream I have is to become a clinical psychologist. But, even if I were to only become a fully-licensed counselor, even that would suffice. Everyone have their own dreams, goals, ambitions, and I am not one to be excluded.
I've watched the Bollywood movie "3 Idiots" the other day, and it somehow made me think about all these talks about goals, dreams, and ambitions. Just like in the movie, we are never excluded in the system where our future has been designed and has been planned for us before we could even crawl. I have a friend whose parents had told her that she needs to be a doctor, because ever since she was born, her parents had set their minds into making that little baby into a doctor. And she grew up with only a doctor's profession in mind. I don't blame her for it, and in fact, I did not say that it is wrong to follow what our parents wants us to be, because if it is something that you yourself wants, then go for it! Strive hard for it.
But, what if your parents wants you to become a doctor, and you wanted to become a writer? Or a teacher? Then, what would you do? In fact, what would we be able to do? Some families are supportive. I have another friend who had the same endeavour as the friend I stated above. But, unlike friend A, friend B wanted to become an artist. The difference between friend A and B are their interests and passion. Friend A has a passion for medicine whereas friend B has a burning passion for arts. Both friend A and friend B's parents wanted them to become a doctor, or to excel in the field of science and engineering. Friend A went into the path because that is her goal, so she really has no conflicts whatsoever in the matter, but as for friend B, she went into arts and designs despite having to go against her parents. It took her family quite some time to adjust with her decisions, but the aftermath of this was that friend B excelled awesomely in the field, and so did friend A.
What I'm trying to say is, what others want us to be doesn't matter at all. What matters most is what we want to be. We are the writers of our own life, not other people. Not even our parents. Parents are supposedly to be supportive. True, parents have the power to dictate our lives, and they do know what's best for our future. But, we are humans, and we are all born in a diversity. We are all different. Each and every single one of us have different passions, different goals.
As for me, no one expected me to want or to even dream in becoming a psychologist or even a counselor. But, that did not stop me. In fact, when other people belittled my dream, it ignites my passion even more. I have a junior in college, and that junior battled hard with his parents just because he wanted to become a counselor. To his parents, taking counseling won't determine a bright future for him, but he did not cared. He told his parents that he would strive for it and prove them wrong. At last, his parents gave up and let him do what he wants, but his parents still pester him about being a counselor, about how a career in counseling won't bring him joy and prosperity in the future.
So, keep on dreaming! And never stop trying.
Allah SWT is with the expectations of His creations. If you expect success in your life, then He will fulfill it for you, for Allah is the Most Loving.
I had always dreamt of becoming a writer. It was also a dream of mine to become a psychiatrist, but due to circumstantial reasons, that dream is only just a dream now. I'm not giving up just yet, though. As of now, the only dream I have is to become a clinical psychologist. But, even if I were to only become a fully-licensed counselor, even that would suffice. Everyone have their own dreams, goals, ambitions, and I am not one to be excluded.
I've watched the Bollywood movie "3 Idiots" the other day, and it somehow made me think about all these talks about goals, dreams, and ambitions. Just like in the movie, we are never excluded in the system where our future has been designed and has been planned for us before we could even crawl. I have a friend whose parents had told her that she needs to be a doctor, because ever since she was born, her parents had set their minds into making that little baby into a doctor. And she grew up with only a doctor's profession in mind. I don't blame her for it, and in fact, I did not say that it is wrong to follow what our parents wants us to be, because if it is something that you yourself wants, then go for it! Strive hard for it.
But, what if your parents wants you to become a doctor, and you wanted to become a writer? Or a teacher? Then, what would you do? In fact, what would we be able to do? Some families are supportive. I have another friend who had the same endeavour as the friend I stated above. But, unlike friend A, friend B wanted to become an artist. The difference between friend A and B are their interests and passion. Friend A has a passion for medicine whereas friend B has a burning passion for arts. Both friend A and friend B's parents wanted them to become a doctor, or to excel in the field of science and engineering. Friend A went into the path because that is her goal, so she really has no conflicts whatsoever in the matter, but as for friend B, she went into arts and designs despite having to go against her parents. It took her family quite some time to adjust with her decisions, but the aftermath of this was that friend B excelled awesomely in the field, and so did friend A.
What I'm trying to say is, what others want us to be doesn't matter at all. What matters most is what we want to be. We are the writers of our own life, not other people. Not even our parents. Parents are supposedly to be supportive. True, parents have the power to dictate our lives, and they do know what's best for our future. But, we are humans, and we are all born in a diversity. We are all different. Each and every single one of us have different passions, different goals.
As for me, no one expected me to want or to even dream in becoming a psychologist or even a counselor. But, that did not stop me. In fact, when other people belittled my dream, it ignites my passion even more. I have a junior in college, and that junior battled hard with his parents just because he wanted to become a counselor. To his parents, taking counseling won't determine a bright future for him, but he did not cared. He told his parents that he would strive for it and prove them wrong. At last, his parents gave up and let him do what he wants, but his parents still pester him about being a counselor, about how a career in counseling won't bring him joy and prosperity in the future.
So, keep on dreaming! And never stop trying.
Allah SWT is with the expectations of His creations. If you expect success in your life, then He will fulfill it for you, for Allah is the Most Loving.
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