Smile!

"If you have a hundred reasons to cry, then you have a thousand reasons to smile!"

The first time I heard this quote was from a friend of mine, and that was back when I was 16. Only, at the time, I really did not understand what it really means. In a straightforward kind of way, it really means that if I have a hundred reasons to cry, then I have many more reasons to smile. But, indirectly, this quote only makes full sense now.

You know, everyone has their own secret in life. A past that no one knows, a past in which they keep secret, just between them and Allah. Some may call it 'unfinished business' or some may even call it 'unresolved issues'. Call it whatever you want, the definition is just the same. I am not excluded in this matter. In fact, if I were to recall about many things in my life, I have a few unresolved issues myself. To many people, talking about these so-called 'unresolved issues' can ease the pain and suffering. I agree; Talking does help. That's why talk-therapy or couseling exists. But, to me, in my own life, talking makes me feel indifferent.

Because you see, despite knowing that I have a lot of reasons to be vengeful, angry, and sad, I am fully aware that I have many more other reasons to be happy and to keep on smiling. Well, yeah, my life isn't perfect, but unlike before, I don't want to mope about it. Compare to what others have to suffer and endure, my problems and tribulations are really very minuscule. There are times where I think I deliberately exaggerate on my own problems when in reality, the part exaggerated are really non-existent.

Keep on smiling!

You know, we were created in a life that is filled with black and white. There's a positive and negative element in our lives. No one lives life without hardship, may it be small, may it be big, but no one goes through life stagnant. To be honest, I grew up as a pessimist. I did not believe in anything positive because, well, to me, positive auras never last. But ever since I came into college, slowly, my views changed. And believe me, that process of changing was very challenging! In order for me to keep on being positive, I have to wake up, forcing myself to think only positive thoughts and to try and keep on smiling no matter what the situation is. The journey had been a struggle for me, and this is also a struggle for those who are currently in a rough patch. But, you know something? The transition from the negative to positive is a transition that will forever change our lives!

You know, I have many reasons to be sad, but the reasons to my happiness can outnumber the reasons for my sadness and pain. And so it can be for you, too. Your fiance left you? Well, you still have a family that has your back! Your parents just got divorced? Be thankful that they are still alive! You failed your exams? Failure only opens up new doors for your success! You're financially troubled? Well, there are others who can live without money! Change our views towards problems. Rather than let it control our thoughts, why not WE control our problems?

We are all positive. The only difference is that, some of us haven't found the positive values in our lives, and some of us has. The people who we label as 'pessimists' are just people who are searching for their positive values in life. Once they find it, inner peace comes. Positive vibes and all things positive are easy to acquire -- we just have to find them at the right places! Once we find them, spread them. Share them! My teacher once told me :

"Sometimes the only way to heal your heart is by helping others heal theirs!"

So, why not share the happiness and positivity that we have with others? It makes them feel good, but what's most important is that it makes US feel good. =)

PS : Keep on smiling, my dears. Life without obstacles ain't really life. Experience every emotion there is in life, and learn from each one of it! Ganbatte kudasai, minna! Oy oy oy~ And oh, I hope this post makes sense -- somehow. Le sad face. Ugh. Au revoir!