Jan 25, 2016

Book review : The Danish Girl

The Danish Girl - David Ebershoff


Title : The Danish Girl
Author : David Ebershoff
Edition : Paperback (Movie cover)
No. of pages : 310
Goodreads rating : 3.7 out of 5.

My rating : 4 out of 5.

Book synopsis :
It starts with a question, a simple favour asked by a wife of her husband, setting off a transformation neither can anticipate.

Einar Wegener and his American wife Greta Waud have been married for six years, but are yet to have a child. Both painters, they live a life of bohemian languor in Copenhagen until one day their lives are irreversibly altered. The Danish Girl eloquently shows the intimacy that defines a marriage and the nearly forgotten story of the love between a man who discovered that he is, in fact, a woman, and his wife who would sacrifice anything for him.

Set against the glitz, and decadence of 1920s Copenhagen, Paris and Dresden, and inspired by a true story, The Danish Girl is about one of the most passionate and unusual marriages of the twentieth century.

My review :
I've been reading this book to no end. Bought it together with my sister just because we saw the movie trailer. My expectations of it were only a basis from snippets of the trailer, since it is about the psychology and the physical progression of a transgender. I had always wanted to understand them, the way they feel, how their minds work, and believe me, the book made me change my views towards them.

The book settled in Copenhagen in the early 1920s, where Einar Wegener and his American wife, Greta Waud were living in Widow House (as the called it). They were both painters, in which Einar paints landscapes mostly of his life growing up in the bog of Bluetooth, and Greta usually settles for painting portraits of people. I had never once knew that just by a simple request made by Greta that the story begins to set sail into an understanding that I only manage to only observe and not devour.

Lili (soon known as Lili Elbe) was made into a third person by both Einar and Greta. When Greta thought it would always remain as a game, Einar knew that it was something more than just. While reading this book, I began to understand the transition made by Einar, initially judging his personality, but then progressing into me understanding everything about how and why the movement. It took many events that had led Einar to fully convince that he was actually a woman and not a man.

And I think it all began when Greta asked him for a simple favor : fill in the spot for Anna (her model) when she cancelled. After that one simple favor, Greta and Einar has been treating Lili as a third person, only to find out that Einar truly believes that both Einar and Lili can be summoned in and out of the subconscious. This, ultimately led Einar's health to deteriorate and Lili stayed more and more. It is as though Lili has conquered most of Einar, and in the end, Einar was gone forever.

Greta was confronted with a great conflict, and had showed a great tolerance and a show of pure love when she helped her husband into his transition. Before Einar, Greta was married to Teddy Cross who in the end died after a battle with TB. They had a child who died at birth, but even when she was married to Teddy, she had shown great dedication, tolerance and love towards the man she married. I find Greta's character simply mesmerizing in terms of her psyche, and in terms of her sense of humanity.

Throughout the book, I've been very keen in writing most of the details and progression of the book. But, the book is just basically a story revolving only Einar, Greta and Lili. Throughout the book, I even referred to DSM-V and some medical websites to understand about Einar and Lili, which led me to love the book even more.

The book ended with some hints of what will happen to Lili. Even acknowledging the circumstances and her future, Lili had never once regretted her decision.

Jan 1, 2016

2016

Happy New Year, everyone!

I celebrated new year in Australia this year, Alhamdulillah. The firework display was fantastic in Taree, and I couldn't be any more thankful, any more grateful for the life that I have now! In fact, I wouldn't exchange it for anything in the world.
 
2015 as a whole has been quite a ride.
I survived college life, and ended my diploma days beautifully.
I attended graduation day with the friends that I love unconditionally.
I went to my first job interview, and succeed in getting a job.
There was a beautiful addition to our family; my brother got married to a wonderful lady.
I was given the chance to go to Vietnam and explore it with my mom and little sister.
I expanded my passion of arts, crafts and books, and along the way, I met new people.
And just last month, I flew to Australia, and voila! Here I am now!
 
I had promised myself to see life as a beautiful thing last year, and that I had achieved. I succeed, and I had never felt so accomplished before. Maybe because before all my goals were unrealistic. I have so many little things to appreciate and thankful in 2015, that I am even more thankful and grateful that the little things I can bring into 2016.
 
Personally, I don't like waiting for a new year to come, because to me, it is just like any other day. Fireworks are common, people wishing a happy new year is common, but personally, that's really not my cup of tea. But that doesn't mean that I am rejecting the idea, no. I find it to be something positive to do that.
 
Back to summarizing my 2015.
For the past years, I have met many new people. Shockingly for me, I succeeded in making friends. NEW friends, to be precise! I had never imagined that I survived until now. Socially, I was always awkward and the odd one out, but the discovery of the counseling world has changed me, maybe not wholly, but a part of me has changed. In 2015, I was confronted by the things that I have changed into. I was constantly reminded just how much I've changed.
 
I don't really like to be reminded, but somehow 2015 was a year that I grew to like the reminders. It gave me hope. It brought light into my life. It gave me a new breath. 2015 has taught me that being broken, being hurt, being in pain doesn't entirely mean that life is ending. Some of the pain simply means that life is starting.
 
So yeah, 2015 was wonderful with its ups and downs.
 
Heads up, 2016. I am walking with you stronger than the past years.
Let's try to love each other, 2016!